I had planned to post another response to the "reasons" I ultimately know that will come from Christians as to why I am no longer a Christian. However, after listening to some sermons from those I dearly love and respect, I thought this was the time to address another issue before I move forward with those "reasons". This is an aspect of my coming out that is truly important to me and one that I believe accents the true struggle of those of us that come out go through. We love people. We love the Christians we have known and know. We love our families and we love our friends. We ache at the thought that they will be hurt by the news that we no longer believe. We also ache that the only answer those we love will have is that we have been taken over by a demonic force, we are selfish and arrogant, we think we are our own god, etc. We were once there with you/them and believed the same things. It truly broke our hearts to see others walk away. In a way we understand where you/they are coming from.We therefore have little to no room to judge you for judging us. We want to be kind and very respectful to you and your beliefs because we honestly love and respect you as people. Not to mention we believed what you believe at one time. Yet to a degree we know you will not in any way shape or form extend the same back. At best you will say you do not hate the sinner...you hate the sin. You still love us, yet you hate what we do, what we believe, we are lost, we are naive, we are possessed or influenced by demons, and we ignore all that is around us and have willingly chosen to join forces with the dark side,..the enemy. You love us, yet you hate all we believe, all we stand for, all we are. And so I suppose that is the best approach I have to offer you all as far as where I am is this. I love you all. I love my Christian friends. I love my Christian family. I would happily help any of you in any way that I had means to. I would die for many of you. I do not think I am in anyway smarter than you, more educated than you, more evolved than you, or in anyway superior. I don't ask that you suspend your beliefs and in anyway say what I believe is true. You believe I will spend eternity in hell, and I still love you and understand that you must believe that. I believe you are caught up in archaic beliefs that are designed and re designed to help you cope with life. I believe the bible is damn near comical in some ways, and evil in others. Can you accept me and respect where I am? Or am I an idiot and demon possessed and you don't want to be near me for fear my demons may in some way influence you or your people? Do you truly love me and accept me for who I am and what I believe and don't believe? Or, must you stand and say to me...you have been taken over by the devil and you will spend eternity in hell and I can't have you around me?. I suppose what is interesting is that many of the Christians I have known and respected, I would still respect and accept sound advice from. Many are sound and very wise people. I would trust that their advice would be sound and that if I followed it I would likely be safe if not successful. The only difference is that it has nothing to do with god...or Jesus...or the bible. I would submit to your leadership still to this day because you are otherwise wise people and great leaders. I will never submit to your god or your religion. Ever. I think it is sick and twisted. I do however respect you. And yes I know to reject your god and religion is to reject you. You will say that you and your god are one and to reject one is to reject the other. However do not accuse me of being arrogant and rebellious and one to reject authority. I do not. Do not accuse me of one to hate Christians as I do not. I respect you and accept that your beliefs are different and believe that you are still otherwise intelligent. Will you extend me the same courtesy? Probably not...you can't. Your beliefs command that I be rejected as a fool. Rebellious and arrogant.Clueless and blind to all of the evidence that is before me. What should I do with that? Attempt to save you so you can realize how much better life is when you realize how fake and false what you believe truly is? Should I spend energy hoping that you will be able to experience the real truth? That would be arrogant. I have no cause or urgency that requires me to tell you to not believe or to share with you what I have found on the other side. And yet you are commanded to do so to live out what you believe. So I accept your arrogance and your arrogant beliefs, and I love you. I accept that your beliefs, your bible, and your lord leave no room other than to say you are right, and I am wrong. Again I accept your arrogance, and I will continue to love you. I ask that you please respect my humility in that I only claim what I have experienced in my personal life.Sure, I could be wrong. Possibly I got it wrong? I in no way claim it is right for you. I will never call you naive for believing what you do. I do not hate your religious behavior...I hate your religion. Does that set well with you? It does not set well with me when you say you don't hate me, you hate my sin, my beliefs, my naivity, my disrepsect, etc. I am me. I am going to spend eternity burning according to you. Yet, I will at least attempt to be more respectful to you and your beliefs...regardless of how primitive, archaic, and down right ignorant they may be. I will never hate you, just your religion. Get it? I don't hate the sinner, I hate the sin...it is not as kind as it sounds to you.
Monday, October 17, 2011
I don't hate the religious, I hate the religion
I had planned to post another response to the "reasons" I ultimately know that will come from Christians as to why I am no longer a Christian. However, after listening to some sermons from those I dearly love and respect, I thought this was the time to address another issue before I move forward with those "reasons". This is an aspect of my coming out that is truly important to me and one that I believe accents the true struggle of those of us that come out go through. We love people. We love the Christians we have known and know. We love our families and we love our friends. We ache at the thought that they will be hurt by the news that we no longer believe. We also ache that the only answer those we love will have is that we have been taken over by a demonic force, we are selfish and arrogant, we think we are our own god, etc. We were once there with you/them and believed the same things. It truly broke our hearts to see others walk away. In a way we understand where you/they are coming from.We therefore have little to no room to judge you for judging us. We want to be kind and very respectful to you and your beliefs because we honestly love and respect you as people. Not to mention we believed what you believe at one time. Yet to a degree we know you will not in any way shape or form extend the same back. At best you will say you do not hate the sinner...you hate the sin. You still love us, yet you hate what we do, what we believe, we are lost, we are naive, we are possessed or influenced by demons, and we ignore all that is around us and have willingly chosen to join forces with the dark side,..the enemy. You love us, yet you hate all we believe, all we stand for, all we are. And so I suppose that is the best approach I have to offer you all as far as where I am is this. I love you all. I love my Christian friends. I love my Christian family. I would happily help any of you in any way that I had means to. I would die for many of you. I do not think I am in anyway smarter than you, more educated than you, more evolved than you, or in anyway superior. I don't ask that you suspend your beliefs and in anyway say what I believe is true. You believe I will spend eternity in hell, and I still love you and understand that you must believe that. I believe you are caught up in archaic beliefs that are designed and re designed to help you cope with life. I believe the bible is damn near comical in some ways, and evil in others. Can you accept me and respect where I am? Or am I an idiot and demon possessed and you don't want to be near me for fear my demons may in some way influence you or your people? Do you truly love me and accept me for who I am and what I believe and don't believe? Or, must you stand and say to me...you have been taken over by the devil and you will spend eternity in hell and I can't have you around me?. I suppose what is interesting is that many of the Christians I have known and respected, I would still respect and accept sound advice from. Many are sound and very wise people. I would trust that their advice would be sound and that if I followed it I would likely be safe if not successful. The only difference is that it has nothing to do with god...or Jesus...or the bible. I would submit to your leadership still to this day because you are otherwise wise people and great leaders. I will never submit to your god or your religion. Ever. I think it is sick and twisted. I do however respect you. And yes I know to reject your god and religion is to reject you. You will say that you and your god are one and to reject one is to reject the other. However do not accuse me of being arrogant and rebellious and one to reject authority. I do not. Do not accuse me of one to hate Christians as I do not. I respect you and accept that your beliefs are different and believe that you are still otherwise intelligent. Will you extend me the same courtesy? Probably not...you can't. Your beliefs command that I be rejected as a fool. Rebellious and arrogant.Clueless and blind to all of the evidence that is before me. What should I do with that? Attempt to save you so you can realize how much better life is when you realize how fake and false what you believe truly is? Should I spend energy hoping that you will be able to experience the real truth? That would be arrogant. I have no cause or urgency that requires me to tell you to not believe or to share with you what I have found on the other side. And yet you are commanded to do so to live out what you believe. So I accept your arrogance and your arrogant beliefs, and I love you. I accept that your beliefs, your bible, and your lord leave no room other than to say you are right, and I am wrong. Again I accept your arrogance, and I will continue to love you. I ask that you please respect my humility in that I only claim what I have experienced in my personal life.Sure, I could be wrong. Possibly I got it wrong? I in no way claim it is right for you. I will never call you naive for believing what you do. I do not hate your religious behavior...I hate your religion. Does that set well with you? It does not set well with me when you say you don't hate me, you hate my sin, my beliefs, my naivity, my disrepsect, etc. I am me. I am going to spend eternity burning according to you. Yet, I will at least attempt to be more respectful to you and your beliefs...regardless of how primitive, archaic, and down right ignorant they may be. I will never hate you, just your religion. Get it? I don't hate the sinner, I hate the sin...it is not as kind as it sounds to you.
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